My Friend Said I Should Lower My Expectation

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Pfft

Life? I have a life, education. I own my houses—not with daddy's money—and I have a job, not because of cable. I'm stable and I don't depend on anyone. No bantuan, no alimony whatsoever

Kids? Not 1, but 4. I’ve been the sole provider for them for 10 years 12 years, not to mention those years I had to take care of "anak orang" too. Itu tambah lagi 7? 8 years? #iykyk

I single-handedly took care of everything: their food, school, games, extra classes, holiday; every single one of their wants and needs. Ask my kids—how many times have I turned down what they asked for? 
Never

Their education? Maybe I can't afford to send them to the best international schools, but I make sure they study and learn as much as they can; dunia akhirat. My kids top student tak? Ya, top student

You know what my proudest moment was? When I asked them what they want to be when they grow up. They said, "Bila kita besar, we want to be like Ibu. After that, we want to take care of Ibu,"
And I'll always reply, "Once you're married, you need to take care of your own family. I want my space and unlimited me-time K,"
Myself? I don't know if you realize this, but I have a clean house, and I do all the cooking and baking. I prepare five meals a day and multiple snacks from scratch for my kids while working full time. And other 101 hobbies on the side

Alhamdulillah. All this effort is our own, but it is Allah who gave it to us. So, with a life like this, why in the world would I waste it on someone who doesn't meet—or even better, exceed—my expectations

You know, if you're willing to marry a man who is under your level, he will only pull you down to his level. Being me is already tiring enough—with work and the kids. I don't want to waste my time on something that isn't certain

If you had a daughter, would you want her to struggle, married to someone not on her level? Or would you wish for her to have the best husband she could possibly have? Just think about that

If a man got triggered, it's just because they can't afford something that's not in their "level" or price range. Everyone is entitled to their opinion anyway

Kalau awak mampu, you won't be defensive. You would say it's normal. If you are "the man" lah

Fight me if I'm wrong. I'm in a mood for a good argument. I'm a tulang yang bengkok after all

P/S: If the shoe fits, wear it. If it doesn't, well—

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