Helping Teenagers Through The Pandemic

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The environment that teenagers are experiencing today - from the MeToo movement and sexual predation to polarising politics and environmental crises - is vastly different from their parents.
These impact how teenagers see the world and themselves.
With the Covid-19 pandemic, I have seen varying degrees of boredom among teenagers, although studies have found that some boredom can lead to an increase in creativity.
Extended boredom, however, can lead to negative thought processes. It can lead to demotivation when teenagers feel they have nothing much to look forward to.
It is easier for adults to cope with the pandemic because of their life experiences. Adults can say: "Fine, things will be different next year” and hope for better things to come.
For teenagers, though, their span of enthusiasm and life experiences is narrower.
During the prolonged pandemic, many have missed the important transition rituals from adolescence to adulthood – from high school parties to graduation, hanging out with friends, and so on.
The lives of teenagers at the moment have narrowed to one that is routine. Every day seems the same. This exacerbates their sense of listlessness, lack of purpose, and demotivation.
Lifestyle changes during the pandemic have led to sleep disturbances, lack of stimuli, lack of outdoor activities, little privacy, personal conflict at home, and mental stress within the family.
The problem arises when teenagers have difficulties figuring out what actually bothers or annoys them. Such unexplained anxiety, if unattended to, could lead teenagers to ruminate and do things they are not aware of.
Compulsive and destructive behaviour

For example, in my practice as an addictologist, I have encountered teenagers who disinfect everything. They have a different cover for their mobile phone at home and when they go out.
When they come home, they have their clothes washed immediately, and before they go to bed they have to recite certain incantations so that no family member dies.
Besides such compulsive behaviour, prolonged anxiety can also translate into dietary problems. Some will start to skip certain foods. Others will persist in trying to lose weight unnecessarily.
I have seen increasing tendencies among teenagers towards self-destructive behavior, self-harm, and suicidal thoughts.
During the pandemic, the helpline in Prague, in the Czech Republic, registered about a 30 percent increase in calls on domestic violence, sexual abuse, personal problems including mental health, and Internet addiction.
According to a survey by the Czech School Inspectorate, 10,000 children did not take part in distance education during the pandemic, which carries wide ramifications on the mental health and development of these children.
This is where parents can play a vital role in helping children tackle their anxieties, lack of purpose, and sense of demotivation by encouraging their teenagers to talk about their concerns.
Adolescence is a critical stage in life when individual identities, peer groups, life attitudes, values, and role models are formed and developed.

We all live our lives by wanting to go to a good event, to go on vacation, to enjoy great things, and the excitement of life once in a while.
As a result, boredom and demotivation during a pandemic can, and does, lead to different forms of depression.
Some teenagers fall into depression without even realising the symptoms, including the parents.
Sometimes they feel such a decline in their sense of well-being that it prevents them from getting out of bed. Parents can learn to be more aware of these early signs.
Parents must be responsible

Parents can start by engaging their children in joint family activities such as playing a board game, going for a walk, or just talking with the children about their day, how they feel, or if they need anything.
Peer groups also act as a safety net. Even though they are in limited contact during the pandemic, teenagers support each other by messaging and chatting online.
And even by complaining to each other about how terrible and difficult life is today, the conversation can help them express their concerns.
As with adults, it is also important for teenagers to experience things so that there is always joy in life. It is not meant to be a black and white world in which tasks are only performed mechanically.
A more vulnerable group is teenagers whose parents are undergoing psychological pressure themselves and do not work to address them.
Parents should also take care of their own mental health and, if they need to, seek professional help both for themselves and their children.
The ball is on the side of the adults. We can try to motivate children to persevere, to create a regime, and stick with it in a disciplined way.
A year from today when the pandemic will come to pass, a sense of normalcy will return for the children and their parents. - Mkini




VENDULA LOO is a psychotherapist and addictologist trained in Logotherapy and Existential Analysis. She currently works with teenagers in Prague, Czech Republic. http://www.vendulaloo.com
The views expressed here are those of the author/contributor and do not necessarily represent the views of MMKtT.

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