Why Siti Kasim S Think A Thousand Times Before Converting For The Sake Of Marrying Is Gospel Truth

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LOVE conquers all or so it would seem.
Take away the first flushes of romance, married life is full of unexpected pitfalls and challenges.
So warned human rights activist and lawyer Siti Kasim on her Facebook page recently on the many instances marital breakdown has led to a spouse wishing to leave a religion which he or she converted into for the sake of nuptials.
As it is not so easy to declare apostasy as in the case of Muslim convert spouses – in fact, it is very much a one-way traffic – it is best that one thinks long and hard when choosing a Muslim life partner, she counselled.
Sharing a video of a Muslim wife lamenting about her convert husband’s refusal to adhere to certain Islamic practices, the legal eagle – while chiding the woman for washing dirty laundry on social media – contended that such is a chilling reminder of how fast reality of life would creep in once marital bliss has faded.

In the video which was first posted on Berani Viral’s Facebook page, the lady identified only as Ema complained about her husband’s fondness for his pet dog.
The canine which Ema admits is cute has clearly become a major bone of contention as its very presence within the home has greatly upset her.
Additionally, she is also infuriated by her husband partaking in some Taoist praying ritual alongside his grandmother who is living with them in addition to his fondness for Chinese food with dubious halal status.

However, Ema was berated by one commenter for being narrow-minded with her religious interpretations having contained too many restrictions which were not universal Islamic values.
He went on to chide the lady for not being able to differentiate between religious and cultural practices.

One lady commenter who claimed to have divorced from her Muslim convert spouse revealed that she never felt the urge to share him on social media. Foolish seems to be the verdict here.

The same sentiment was echoed by more than a few who thought such story telling of family matters in public to be in poor taste.

One commenter seemed to hit the nail on the head by asking why marry a convert if the lady was unwilling to compromise or buy into a different cultural background.
Such small-minded individuals are ill-suited to mixed marriages it was observed, hence Ema should have sought a Malay-Muslim spouse from the off to avoid all the challenges she is now facing.

It was also pointed out that in Indonesia, the world’s most populous Muslim nation, does not require non-Muslims to convert to Islam before legally marrying a Muslim.

There was little sympathy for Ema as many saw her rant as attention-seeking as well as displaying her narrow-mindedness for all to see.
One commenter even urged the husband to simply kick out this complaining spouse instead of his beloved dog.

That may be a tad drastic.
The one thing that the video does highlight – regardless of one’s cultural or religious beliefs – is that mixed marriages can be fraught with difficulties.
Love can indeed conquer, but only if you let it … with a huge slice of compromise. – Focus Malaysia

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